Text published in a Brazilian newspaper (Jornal A Notícia)

Polygamy of Thoughts

I have always heard endless discussions about monogamy and polygamy. To tell the truth, I don’t know if I want to have an opinion about this, at least not today. What goes through my mind right now is the issue of how difficult it can be to try to establish monogamy in our thoughts. And why the hell am I thinking about that? Because that's what happens every day. Our daily relationship with our mind is entirely polygamous. We make an appointment with the word decision and boom, who appears ready to take us to dinner is our friend dilemma.

Is the decision between that job far away or the quiet life near to your family. Saving money to buy a house or to spend it on a big trip? To invest in your career or to give up everything for a love story? The big problem is that we want everything. We want jobs, we want to travel and more than ever we want love, everything at the same time having a huge polygamous orgy inside of our minds!

So then you begin to get organized in life. Put your career in the first place, plan a long trip, find your Prince Charming and live happily ever after, yes?

No, life is not a romcom* (thank God). Our lives are more like an Almodóvar movie or even Tarantino’s. Everything happens inside out, everything happens polygamous. You focus on your career, study in a course here, another there and boom: the person appears right there in the middle of everything, stuck in that hour that you least need it, all smiling, making you soften your legs and change all your plans: "Forget about professional life, I want to run away with you to paradise!" Momentary monogamy of your heart, which makes your mind’s polygamy gets quickly to your mind, making you ask a hundred of times: "Oh my good God, is this really the best decision? "

Confusion aside, one thing I can assure you: if it’s already difficult to control the monogamy of our hearts, the polygamy of our minds have been already destroying our sobriety and leading us to madness every day. But now, just between us, who doesn’t know that in the game of polygamy is the lack of control that is more successful?

*Romantic Comedy